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Life before 30 has been a bit of a roller-coaster for me. It feels like I have been a twenty something for an extremely long time. I know it sounds silly but it really does feel like forever, not that I am complaining!

Throughout my 20’s I have seen family and friends get married, have a baby, have more babies, move house and change jobs. This is the bit where I am going to annoy even myself but I feel like I have stagnated. Despite so much going on I can remember small amounts of positive and quite a bit of negative. In general I am not a negative person and would much rather find a solution instead of dwelling on a problem. Despite not dwelling on negative aspects of life I do question myself A LOT and am always wondering what I can do to make things better for me and those around me.

Deep down I feel like I should have done more with my life but then I stop and think – seriously Fay STOP and look at what you have achieved so far, how happy you have been and how happy you can be. Stop looking at those around you for the go to ‘what life should be’ and get on with your own life. It really is easier said than done when you see your friends and loved ones progressing at a rate that just seems too far, but hey let’s just take a chill pill and slow the roll right down.

Life, Words, Language, Life Before 30, Blog A Book Etc, FayA couple of weeks ago after leaving A’s to go back home I took a wrong turn and ended up just driving, I drove through the town that we are potentially moving to and the carried on down the motorway towards my favourite Starbucks for an iced tea and some laptop time. In my head all I could think about was what I had planned when I was 19 going into my 20’s. Most of my inflated teenage plans are either forgotten or shattered and some are still in the pipeline.

Let’s have a little trip down memory lane in comparison to now shall we . . .

I planned to be a computer tech genius who wrote complex programmes and could make or break the program if push came to shove.

I am an Intensive Care Nurse who cares for patients with a multitude of problems, their families and friends and if needed holds the hands of those who would otherwise die alone. It is indeed the most privileged I have ever felt.

I wanted to be married with kids.

I am in a relationship with someone who I love very much and we are planning our future together, plans have changed but overall the end goal is the same.

I planned to be a homeowner.

I have moved back with my parents a while back now and despite really wanting to get my own place ASAP I am treasuring every moment I have with my dear parents and despite arguments and just outright disagreements I love them very much and know that our time together is limited so I am enjoying it whilst I can.

I wanted to be a big time blogger

Firstly, yes I have been blogging for a very long time and over that time I have changed my blog many times and evolved with it. At the moment I am half in, half out and feel a little bit like blogging really has had its day BUT I will not give up as I really do enjoy blogging and I think I am at that place now where it really is more for me than anyone else. If things take off then they do and I will be incredibly grateful for such an opportunity if not then I will still be here documenting what I want to, when I want to and most importantly HOW I want to.

I wanted to be a writer

I write in my spare time for my blog and a couple of other personal projects, I also write a variety of things for work but nothing as of yet has been published.

What did you want when you were 19 going on 20 and has it changed now you are 29 going on 30 or older?

30th Birthday, Birthday, celebration, balloons, 30, life, Blog A Book Etc, FayFour days before my birthday and there are many other things swimming around in my head but I can’t quite get them down. Yesterday was the first time in a long time that I lost a patient and boy did it happen quickly. It really did make me think about life in the broader scheme of things and I would be lying if I said it didn’t upset me. Thanks to my colleagues and A for keeping me on the straight and narrow.

Before I am 30 I would like to say that despite all of my wants and hearts desires I am 100% for those that I have around me from past and especially the present. I love you all very much and am grateful for every day that I have with you. Life is precious and I intend to live it to the fullest.

Are you almost or just turned 30?


Audible Clips, Audible, Audio Books, Audio Clips, Snippets, Books, Blog A Book Etc, FayA couple of weeks ago Audible launched their brand spanking new social sharing tool which is quite aptly named Clips. This particular tool is one that when you listen to an audio book you are able to select, save and share ‘Clips’ from your favourite books with the world of social media. If you have found a particularly passage of your favourite book quite moving then why not share it with those that you feel it may inspire and motivate.

Whether it is a cheeky message for a lover or an inspirational quote for someone that needs that little boost for the day get sharing. The recipient of your clip does not have to have an Audible account to listen to your Clips but i’m sure after listening to your amazing snippets they will want to listen to the entire book. What better way to listen to the full book than to sign up to Audible for a 30-day membership trial and download your first book for free.

“Why, sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.”
Lewis Carroll, Alice Through The Looking Glass, narrated by Miriam Margolyes

The powers that be in Audible have put together a top 10 clips list for you to get your head around this new gem of an app and hopefully get you started on your own list of fantabulous quotes. I am still working on mine as I have spent quite a bit of time away from Audible lately but I am aiming to head back with a vengeance whilst using this beaut!

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Audible’s Top 10 Clip List

‘David Copperfield’ by Charles Dickens

‘Bossypants’ by Tina Fey

‘Norwegian Wood’ by Haruki Murakami

‘The Last Battle: The Chronicles of Narnia’ by C.S. Lewis

‘To Kill a Mockingbird’ by Harper Lee

‘The Fellowship of the Ring: The Lord of the Rings, Book ‘1 by J. R. R. Tolkien

‘Lady Windermere’s Fan’ by Oscar Wilde

‘Frankenstein’ by Mary Shelley

‘Four Quartets’ by T. S. Eliot

‘Through the Looking Glass’ by Lewis Carroll

Aren’t they just great – I think I would have to say that my favourite is the last clip from Lewis Carroll.

What’s your favourite & what are you looking forward to clipping?!

Chlamydia, Sexually Transmitted Infection, STI, STD, Sexually Transmitted Disease, Sexual Health, Health, Education, Blog A Book Etc, Fay

Yesterday was my first proper day off in the week and whilst in the shower two tunes popped into my head both of which are what I reckon can be classed as 90’s classics. First up we have Summer of Love by Lonyo, followed by Make It Clap by Busta Rhymes. I know, I know I am such a 90’s child – but hey what’s not to love about the age before digital items took over life and we all spend more time staring into our phones instead of our significant others lives. These days we probably know more about our friends and lovers Sim City’s than we do about their actual selves. Anyway, I digress. The point of this post was actually to highlight an important health issue. As I have been beating around the proverbial bush i’m not sure if you have guessed what I am babbling about yet so I’ll just tell you.

With summer coming up it is just the right time of year for a well known STD to sink it’s claws into as many people as possible. So with that in mind let’s make it a Summer of Love and try not to Make It Clap – got it yet?! No?! OKAYYYYY!!!

CHLAMYDIA guys – that is my burning topic for this post – pardon the pun! If you are lucky enough to escape the dreaded clap throughout your sexually active life then all credit to you and high fives all round. If you are like a pussy on a scratching post then I genuinely do feel for you but this is one place that you can be brutally honest, laugh, cry and even bitch about it.

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Chlamydia can be contracted through contact of mucous membranes found in the eyes, mouth, vagina, rectum or urethra. That is quite a lot of places that you can contract this pesky infection. It is also possible to contract Chlamydia without penetration, orgasm or ejaculation – just think all the pain and irritation with none of the fun. If you use sex toys regularly then you are also at risk if you do not clean them thoroughly and use a fresh condom each time you partake in their pleasurable sensations!

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Chlamydia is well known for NOT showing symptoms it can go under the radar and be left untreated for some time. This increases the risk of spreading the infection and possible further medical issues. Before we get into the nitty gritty of treatment let’s start with some of the signs and symptoms that may occur if you have Chlamydia.


  • Burning sensation when urinating
  • Frequent and painful urination
  • Painful and swollen testicles
  • Discharge
  • If anal then rectal pain, discharge and/or bleeding


  • Nausea
  • High Temperature
  • Burning and/or painful urination
  • Abdominal or lower back pain
  • Pain whilst having sex
  • Bleeding between periods
  • Vaginal Discharge

Chlamydia, Sexually Transmitted Infection, STI, STD, Sexually Transmitted Disease, Sexual Health, Health, Education, Blog A Book Etc, FayChlamydia (otherwise know as C.Trachomatis) really can be a bitch of an infection to get rid of as some people don’t even realise they have it until it has developed into something even worse such as Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID). I have put together a few helpful tips for you firstly about finding out if you bits are clapping instead of flapping and sorting out that pesky itch that you can’t quite scratch.

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  • Head to your nearest GUM/Sexual Health clinic and they will ask you to pee in a pot and wait for the results. There is a chance that they will ask to swab your intimate areas instead of asking you to provide a urine sample so please do be prepared for that. If you engage in oral or anal intercourse then the health professional will most likely swab the back of your throat and your anus too.
  • Take the prescribed medicine for the actual amount of time you are told and not a dose or two shorter. You can usually get a single tablet called Azithromycin or you may be prescribed Doxycycline for a 7 to 14 days (one tablet twice a day). These two treatments are the most common out there – for those with HIV these treatments usually remain the same but please do check with your doctor or sexual health professional. Studies have shown that both methods of treatment mentioned above have 97-98% cure rate. For rectal Chlamydia treatment studies are ongoing.
  • Tell your partner, regardless of whether it was a one night stand or it is something serious the other person should be tested to reduce the risk of reinfection and spreading the infection elsewhere. If you are in a relationship and unsure who gave what to who then I suggest that you both make a list of past partners and let them all know. This may sound laborious but it really does need to be done – you may also be lucky enough to find out who gave it to you.
  • Avoid sex for at least a week post treatment and make sure you wrap it up next time – it is just as much the females responsibility to make sure the male is wearing protection when entering into a sexual relationship.
    Retest three months after you complete your course of treatment – it is best to be sure that you are completely infection free.

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No Jokes guys and girls – sexual health is an important part of daily life especially as there are a growing number of younger individuals becoming sexually active at an earlier age these days. If left untreated Chlamydia can lead to some very unfortunate complications for both sexes. So once again guys and girls I have a couple of lists for you. Check it out . . .

For the Ladies

  • Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID) – PID is an infection of the uterus, ovaries and Fallopian tubes. It can be incredibly painful causing persistent pelvic pain and the individual has an increased risk of ectopic pregnancy. This may also lead to difficulty or complete infertility.
  • Complications with Pregnancy – If contracted whilst pregnant and left untreated there is an increased of premature birth and a low birth weight. This is also a risk for the mother who may have a miscarriage or still birth. If you carry through to term the infection may be passed onto the baby and they may be born with conjunctivitis or pneumonia.

For the Gents

  • Epididymitis or Epididymo-orchitis – At the back of your testicles there is a coiled tube that goes by the name of the Epididymis, this tube stores and carries sperm. When inflamed it can be incredibly painful, you may also feel like there is a lump around the testicle area that can be a build up of fluid (regardless of Chlamydia if you feel a lump ANYWHERE go to the doctors straight away and get it checked out). This is something that can be treated by antibiotics and pain relief a recommended treatment is bed rest with your scrotum raised (sorry boys but I couldn’t help but laugh OUT LOUD when I read this! Everyone looked at me in the coffee shop!!!). If left untreated this can lead to infertility and sterility for men and the pain can be unbearable.
  • Sexually Acquired Reactive Arthritis (SARA) – It can be found in women but is more common in men. Your eyes, joints and or urethra become inflamed and at this current moment in time there is no cure. Anti-Inflammatory medications are recommended at this stage as well as getting the source infection (CHLAMYDIA) treated.

If you remember anything from this post I hope it is that if ANYTHING feels abnormal going and get checked and treated ASAP.

There will be more HEALTH related posts – if you have any requests just give me a shout either in the comments, by email or on twitter and I’ll work something out for you.